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Psychology and the Demarest Scandal

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I can cook Malaysian food, I can fix computers and I can speak a bunch of languages.

These are the skills I’ve accumulated over the years as a Malaysian street food expert, IT consultant and BA (Languages) graduate.

You know what I’m completely clueless about? Human psychology.  

Over the last few weeks since I found out about Demarest’s deceptions, I’ve tried to read up on it. I saw the term “sociopath” in blogger John Craig’s writings, and it struck a chord because it described Demarest accurately.

Then when the story broke, I was contacted by other people who have had similar experiences. Comparing notes with them has helped me to wrap my head around Demarest’s behaviour, which I had thought was an isolated case.

One of these is Australian blogger Laura at http://bossandthepudding.blogspot.com.au/ .

She had coincidentally written a 6-part series about someone close to her who spent TWELVE YEARS with a sexual conman in the same mould as Demarest.

This person groomed three women into believing they were in exclusive relationships with him right here in Sydney. When he was due to move to the Middle East, he even tried to convince them to relocate there with him. One had her plane ticket in hand when his lies finally came undone at the airport.

The parallels with Demarest are uncanny. Demarest proposed marriage, talked babies and weddings and tried to get 4 different women to uproot their lives and move in with him – all at the same time.  (Five, if you count the conversation he had about moving to be with yours truly in Australia, though that later morphed into talk about reuniting in Vietnam instead.)

His Swedish fiancée spent a year planning to move to Florida.

Another woman was weeks from relocating with her young child over 1000 miles to be with him; she was actively house-hunting based on his prompting. They’d even picked a wedding venue.

These are not even the most abhorrent or destructive of his actions – I’ll cover those in future posts.

I’ve no idea how these men planned to pull off their elaborate schemes, but I love Laura’s psychological insights both in her writing and in my conversations with her.

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Laura talked about emotional abuse. I had to look up what it means –

Emotional abuse is abuse that occurs when a person is subjected to behaviours or actions (often repeatedly) aimed at preventing or controlling their behaviour, with the intent to cause them emotional harm or fear through manipulation, isolation or intimidation” (ABS, 2014).

This describes what the Demarest women went through during their relationships.

One example of many – woman #7 experienced a trigger the other day, nearly 4 weeks after breaking up with him, when she visited a hairdresser.

Traumatised by memories of Demarest’s rage-filled outbursts and control about her hair length, she couldn’t bring herself to have her hair trimmed beyond what he would allow.

Woman #6 has a similar story about Demarest going berserk when she had her hair cut back in November.

We agree he was oppressive and stressful to be around, and yet he always managed to worm his way back into our affections.

From Laura’s blog

As a broader issue, this story illustrates just how subtle, intricate, pervasive and devastating emotional abuse can be….the issue of domestic violence and emotional abuse is a far too prevalent and toxic element in today’s society. Being such an intimate and shame-filled experience, it is rarely shared openly.

Laura also talked about Gaslighting – another new term by me. Wikipedia describes it as such –

Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun (or) selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity.

This has been Demarest’s technique when challenged – both before and since the story came out. He sent me a series of messages and I refuse to engage him for this reason. The women that did in the hope he would admit wrongdoing have come away confused, distraught and humiliated.

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Other terms that Laura mentioned are BPD and NPD – borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. I’m still playing catch-up with these meanings, but I am alarmed that I’ve gone through life never realising there are such destructive people out there that are seemingly normal, high-functioning individuals.

My own experience of going public shows me that society downplays the damage these sociopaths inflict, so I’m encouraged to read of Laura’s take on this (emphases mine) –

not all wounds are physical and the ones we can’t see are often the most difficult to recover from…

…the victims are left to deal with a legacy of fear and lingering doubt, while also protecting the abuser with a code of silence…

Our society expects victims to politely take their trauma and deal with it behind closed doors lest it make the rest of us feel uncomfortable.

(http://bossandthepudding.blogspot.com.au – Not a Fairy Tale Parts 1-6)

That last quote encapsulates the reactions I’ve received from writing and sharing about Demarest. Despite constant reminders that in order for this story to stick, I NEED to create depth and width in my content, I keep being told to “move on and heal” by patronizing do-gooders.

Writing and sharing IS my way of moving on and healing – and if you think it’s tacky, please ignore my posts on social media or simply unfollow me.

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One final intriguing aspect about the women in Laura’s story is this –

What they all have found…is that they have a ready-made support group unlike any other; a group who understands almost EXACTLY what the others have experienced. They know the intimate details of each other’s pain and suffering.

This again matches the experience of the women in the Demarest scandal.

A close-knit group of us continue to support and talk to each other on a near-daily basis. I may be the one yelling from the rooftops about this jerk, but I’ve got a cheer squad behind the scenes that keeps me going.

(As with all my posts, my claims are drawn directly from conversations with the women who have come forward. Transcripts and other evidence available on request.)

Read Laura’s story here >> http://bossandthepudding.blogspot.com.au/2016/03/not-fairytale-part-1.html

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I Know Another Woman…

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I’ll never forget those words.

Let’s backtrack to two days before.

On 27 March 2016, I sent out this email to my mailing list. The story was due to break the next morning –

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, on Easter Monday, New Idea Magazine will feature an interview with me – and it has NOTHING to do with food or cooking.

I’m sorry the rest of this email sounds vague – there’s a reason for this – which I’ll reveal in the coming days.

You see, I’ve been keeping a secret for nearly 4 ½ years but have decided to come forward because of some new information that was given to me earlier this month.

I wish I had this information when I did an internet search back when this started; it would have saved me from all that has ensued.  That’s why I’m speaking out – I believe it is important that other potential victims are warned about it.

I’ve given a mountain of evidence to New Idea to back up my story, and it’s been vetted by their lawyers.

Depending on the kind of blowback I get once the story breaks, I will release the evidence online to defend myself.

I will speak a lot more about it after the first 48 hours of the story coming out – and will fill in the gaps for you.

I want you to know that but for the fact that it affects other people (and will continue to do so), I would never have spoken out. In fact, most people I’ve talked to think I should keep quiet because they think it’ll damage my reputation and disrupt my life, so please don’t think this is about publicity.

This is not the sort of spotlight I relish – I’d much rather be known for my food and my Down Syndrome advocacy.

If you’re in Australia, please pick up a copy of Easter Monday’s New Idea.  Once you’ve read it, if you decide to stand with me, please share the story with everyone you know and every media outlet you have access to.

Thank you , from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate your support.

Jackie M.


My email subscribers are meant to be my most loyal followers. I like to keep it fairly exclusive; rather than try to push hard for subscribers, I’ve been known to delete annoying people from it.

I hate showing vulnerability; that had been a tough email to write.

This was the first reply to hit my Inbox –

Peter – Please remove me from this conversation. I don’t indulge in gossip, I’m only interested in your food.

Me – Based on your response I’ve deleted you from my subscriber list. 

Peter – That was a bit petulant.

Me – I would say the same about you. 

Peter – You’ve just lost a fan.

Me – Trust me, it’s not a loss.

(As you can see, I’m real mature.)

I found out after that interaction, that Peter was that same creepy guy who had commented on too many of my social media posts for months. Contrary to his high email horse, they weren’t always food-related either. Weirdo.

After that inauspicious start to my campaign, I wasn’t sure what to expect.  At the time the New Idea story broke, there were only 3 known women, including myself.

I ploughed on with this post on my website (since updated), and shared it on social media.-

http://jackiem.com.au/2016/03/28/new-idea-magazine-story/ 

Again, more negativity.

In response, I wrote my first post at Medium.com/@JackieM  – “Did he say this to you? Then you’re not special.”

And…BINGO!

That same night, I received this message from a stranger – a man from halfway across the world –

I know another woman. A mother. I am sharing this with her. (…) 

I think she needs to know this. 

Thank you for sharing. This could not have been easy and I am very sorry for all that have been impacted. 

My friend will be upset. (…)

I am so sorry. Men should honour women. Especially mums….

Mar 29 · Sent from Mobile

I just about fell off my chair. My decision to come forward had been vindicated.

Our conversation continued like this (with parts redacted for brevity and confidentiality)-

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Man – So she is number 4 out of what appears to be many. Wow…

Jackie M. – Yes.

Man – She will kill him

Jackie M. – I would kill him myself.

Man – She cannot go public. That’s her fear.

Jackie M. – I understand. Same with the other two women.(…) 

Man – Wow.

Jackie M. – He’ll soon learn he f*cked the wrong woman.

Man – Amen. Good luck to you all

Woman #4 got in touch with me after my initial exchanges with her friend. We continue to communicate to this day.

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Today Tonight TV Interview About Robb Demarest Scandal

This is the story about Ghost Hunters International’s Robb Demarest that aired on Australia’s Today Tonight on 5 April 2016. The interview was conducted a week before that.

At the time of the interview I was aware of only 3 women but by the time it came on TV, more had come forward.

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There are a few minor facts that need correction/clarification (I don’t think these misstatements took away from the story, which I think was very well done) —

  1. we were messaging on pretty much everything EXCEPT Twitter, whereas the segment says we were messaging on Twitter.
  2. it says Robb was dumped from GH, when in fact it was GHI.
  3. it says he begged for a second chance after I found out about his cheating — I think there were some crossed wires there — they asked if he’d tried to get in touch and I said yes (he sent several messages and called 2x) but that I didn’t answer him. I would imagine they were his attempts at damage control; I definitely didn’t think he was trying to get back with me.

The New Idea interview was published on 28 March. Once I started sharing about it more women came forward, taking the number to eight, seven of whom are single moms.

I guess the moral of the story, to would-be cheaters, is to not piss off Hakka-Chinese single moms with disabled babies and 1.9 million followers.

Story in New Idea Magazine on Monday 28 March 2016. I particularly like the silhouette of the rat on the left.
Story in New Idea Magazine on Monday 28 March 2016. I particularly like the silhouette of the rat on the left.

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The Robb Demarest Relationships Timeline

Update 4 April — …and then there were 8…I’ve added more to the timeline based on my conversation with an 8th woman.

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Timeline drawn from interviews (transcripts available on request) with the seven known victims of Ghost Hunters International’s Robb Demarest. This is to rebut his claim that he did not date more than one woman at a time. 

I think there are probably others out there, and more being groomed as I write.

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, these are NOT casual flings; these women were all led to believe they were in exclusive relationships with this man. He talked of marriage and babies; some of these women were asked to relocate to Florida with him. At the same time.

I am Woman #2 in this list.

2008–2014 — on-off relationship with Woman #1. According to her, they would rekindle their romance every time he travelled to her home state which he did regularly (no dates available, but spread out over timeline below).

shortly after June 2010 — began talking to Woman #8

Dec 2011 — began talking to, then dating Woman #2. Discussed plans to meet up in Iceland.

April 2012 — Milestone — said he was completely in love with Woman #2 . Proposed marriage and offered to adopt her unborn, sick, disabled baby.

early May 2012 — Booked tickets to meet up with Woman #8 in Europe

mid May 2012 — Woman #2 ended relationship because he kept disappearing and was uncontactable for days leading up to her emergency caesarean.

mid May 2012 — he travelled to Woman #1’s home state.

late May 2012 — he came back to Woman #2, apologized, gradually picked up where they left off. Woman #2’s baby in ICU for 7 months until Dec 2012.

June 2012 — met with Woman #8 in Europe, began relationship. Milestone — proposed marriage shortly after that.

#babyNoah leaves hospital after 7 months in the ICU undergoing 3 lifesaving operations; pic by Ian Chow
#babyNoah leaves hospital after 7 months in the ICU undergoing 3 lifesaving operations; pic by Ian Chow

Jan-Feb 2013 — with Woman #2 in Malaysia. He talked about eloping on their last day there.

March 2013 — with Woman #3 in Iceland.

April 2013 — started talking with Woman #4. Invited her to Nepal. She declined.

May 2013 — with Woman #3 in Nepal.

June 2013 — with Woman #2 in Sydney on short trip. Met her baby for first time.

In Sydney with Woman #2 for pre-production of Haunting:Australia
In Sydney with Woman #2 for pre-production of Haunting:Australia

June 2013 — began relationship with Woman #4 in US.

June 2013 (approx) — rekindled relationship with Woman #1 in US. She describes it as when their relationship was at its strongest.

July 2013 — relationship with Woman #8 ended by her. Warned by her to stay away.

July 2013 — with Woman #2 in Sydney on arrival to film Haunting:Australia.

Bonding with #babyNoah before hitting the road to film Haunting:Australia
Bonding with #babyNoah before hitting the road to film Haunting:Australia

July-Aug 2013 — while on the road to film HA,

  • began relationship with Woman #5 and spent every night with her.
  • told Woman #3 he wanted exclusivity with her.
  • called Woman #4 to say he missed her.

Sept 2013 — with Woman #2 on return to Sydney after filming wrapped, for one day. Went back to Woman #5 that night. She confronted him about Woman #2; he insisted they were just friends and that “nothing happened”.

Feb 2014 — with Woman #4 in US. Throughout their relationship she regularly questioned him about other women; he always insisted there was no-one else.

April 2014 — started talking to Woman #6. Talked of plans for wedding in a castle in NY during their 20-month relationship, and told her to house-hunt in Florida for their future residence. She made plans to move to Florida to be with him. Regularly denied he was seeing anyone else (inc. one screenshot on record.)

May 2014 — with Woman #2 in Malaysia. Questioned hard on his return by Woman #4 about whether there was a relationship with Woman #2 during that trip. He swore up and down there was nothing going on.

Told Woman #2 he considered #babyNoah as his own son in this May 2014 trip
Told Woman #2 he considered #babyNoah as his own son in this May 2014 trip

June 2014 — with Woman #3 in Bahrain. He wanted to get engaged.

Sept 2014 — with Woman #4 in Europe. Milestone — told her he loved her.

Oct 2014 — Woman #6 went to Florida to meet him but he didn’t show up; wasn’t contactable.

Jan 2015 — with Woman #5, travelled around Australia on a paranormal tour. Was introduced to her family. Told her he was in love with her, wanted her to have a baby with him.

Entire 2015 — wanted Woman #3 to come to Florida and start a family once he moved back there from Saudi Arabia (which he did in July). She made plans to do so but he kept coming up with excuses why she couldn’t come.

Throughout 2015 — made numerous attempts to re-establish relationship with Woman #8. She ignored his messages.

Mar 2015 — began relationship with Woman #7.

June 2015 — asked Woman #4 to book a hotel room for them. She refused as their communication had been strained and inconsistent.

Sept 2015 — Milestone — told Woman #7 he was in love with her.

Oct 2015 — Woman #6 went to Florida again to meet him; again he cancelled at the last minute.

Nov 2015 — Ended relationship with Woman #4. Deleted and blocked her on social media. Later resumed communication and continued with sexual talk and asking for pics until Feb 2016.

Nov 2015 — Relationship with Woman #3 ended after a “stupid argument”. Deleted her on FB.

Nov 2015 — Tried to resume relationship with Woman #5. She was in a new relationship and said no. He got angry.

Nov 2015 — Milestone — told Woman #6 he loved her.

Dec 2015 — Relationship with Woman #6 ended after she found out he was about to secretly meet a woman — Woman #7 — in Portland.

Dec 2015 — with Woman #7 in Portland.

Jan 2016 (approx) — tried to resume relationship with Woman #3. She said no.

Jan-Feb 2016 — resumed relationship with Woman #2. Said he had always adored her, honestly missed her and loved her. On record to say he wasn’t seeing anyone else. Planned romantic catch-up in Vietnam and Cambodia.

Jan-Feb 2016 He weaved himself back into a relationship with Woman #2
Jan-Feb 2016 He weaved himself back into a relationship with Woman #2

Feb 2016 — Proposed marriage to Woman #1 and wanted to start a family immediately although she was now in a serious relationship. She said no.

24 Feb 2016 — Ended relationship with Woman #2 over a minor argument. Deleted and blocked her.

24 Feb 2016 — Gloated to Woman #1’s boyfriend he had nude pics of her. She deleted him.

26 Feb 2016 — Tried to resume relationship with Woman #5. She said no.

8 March 2016 — Unsolicited message online from mutual connection alerting Woman #2 to his infidelities.

March 2016 — Spent a week with Woman #7; was introduced to her family. Planned for future together.

Easter 2016 — New Idea Magazine exclusive, non-paid interview with Woman #2 re: story. At the time there were only 3 known women — #2, #3 and #5.

The rest came forward after the story was shared online.

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My Celebrity Ghost Hunter Boyfriend is a Sexual Conman

One of my early blog posts at Medium (March 30) from when the story first broke, re-shared here for those who missed it.

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This concerns my interview about Robb Demarest of Ghost Hunters International and Haunting:Australia in Australia’s New Idea magazine.

What follows below was written BEFORE the magazine article came out (and before yesterday’s “first Medium post”) but I wanted to wait 48 hours before publishing. Last night, I was contacted by TWO other women thanks to yesterday’s shares of the New Idea story. There are now SIX of us including another one I was told to talk to and of that, five are single moms. I think there are more out there. Please share this far and wide, especially if you belong to paranormal groups. Women need to be warned about this.

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Before you judge me, this is NOT a bad breakup story. I’ve had bad breakups that I’ll take to my grave because it’s frankly none of your business. This is about exposing a sociopath before other women get hurt.

For over 4 years, I secretly dated a TV star.

My boyfriend, who I first met online, asked me to keep quiet about our relationship.

I couldn’t interact with him publicly on social media, and I couldn’t tag him in any photos.

He wanted to protect me from his jealous fans, he said.

Looking back now at our old messages, I notice from very early on — even before we became a “couple” — he peppered his talk with mentions about stalkers.

“Guess which of these posters is a stalker?” That sort of thing.

He explained that they start out friendly and that they gradually get more bitter and vicious.

These stalkers would attack me out of jealousy, he said. One time, they tracked down his address and followed him home. He even had to buy a gun for protection.

So, like an obedient and loyal girlfriend, I kept our relationship secret.

I always referred to him in public as “my collaborator”, “my associate” or “my TV partner-in-crime” (we were involved in a number of TV projects).

We started talking casually in December 2011 — he circled me on Google+ and, recognizing his name from his TV show, I circled him back. He started messaging me immediately and relentlessly.

When Robb got in touch, I was alone, pregnant, and trying to run my restaurant and food business.

(I’d kicked my husband out of our home a few weeks prior because of what I saw as unacceptable behaviour, right before I found out I was pregnant. I thought at the time it would be a temporary separation, but he never came back.)

We talked every day for some four weeks, mostly about paranormal reality TV shows — his genre. Then he revealed he’d developed feelings for me and asked what I thought if we started long distance “dating”.

The next 4+ years were a roller coaster ride. Sometimes he would disappear for weeks. I didn’t want to seem clingy and needy, so I didn’t complain.

I broke up with him once, and wrote him off a number of times. He always found a way to work himself back into my heart and my life.

When I asked him about other women during his absence, he insisted that he couldn’t possibly have slept around — he was based (at the time) in Saudi Arabia — there were just no women in his circle of acquaintances.

I never considered dating other men even when he was out of contact for long stretches. I just assumed he was busy, or conflicted about where our relationship was headed, or possibly even flirting with other women online.

I didn’t like it, but I always “knew” he’d come back. We had a special connection. Or so I thought.

It all came to an end in late February this year (2016). We got into a minor argument and he unfriended me on Facebook. Then he blocked me.

I was thrown for a loop; we’d been planning a romantic catch-up in Vietnam.

Two weeks passed and I was over him and determined to move on with my life.

Then I got an unexpected DM on Twitter. It was from someone who knew him.

Did I know about Robb’s bad behaviour during Haunting:Australia, he asked.

(HA was a show I had pitched successfully for him, that he shot back in 2013.)

Talk to woman A, he messaged, with a link to her profile.

Ask the HA guys about woman B, who was part of the show’s production crew.

So I did. Woman B was actually a FB friend.

I messaged her — “Were you f*cking my boyfriend when he was here to film HA?”

“Can we talk on the phone, sweetie?”, she responded.

We talked for over an hour.

She had no idea he was my boyfriend, she said. She’d seen us together but he’d told her I was “just a friend”.

Woman B and I were FB friends for 2 years without realising we were both in a relationship with him — this shows how effective he was.

I messaged woman A, initially on Instagram, then Facebook. Sure enough, he’d told her too, that I was just a friend.

The three of us compared timelines and found out we were all dating him at the same time. In fact we were all intimate with him within days and possibly hours of each other.

One time, after spending a day with me, he went back to woman B’s hotel room. Knowing he had been to see me and had been gone for hours, she was suspicious but he reassured her that he and I were just friends and that nothing happened.

I feel sick to the stomach every time I play that back in my head.

I get that celebrity affords you access to groupies. If you’re reading this and you have a fan crush on Robb Demarest and want a no-strings-attached fling, go right ahead. I won’t judge.

We three women (I’m sure there are others out there) were not casual relationships.

When we compared notes, I found out he’d promised them everything he’d promised me.

Babies; a future together (he once proposed marriage to me; wanted to adopt my yet-unborn, Down Syndrome baby).

That he was a one-woman-man and would never play us. And, of course, to keep quiet because of his jealous fans.

Like me, woman B was a single mom. She sounded devastated when she revealed she’d introduced him to her kids.

Based on those conversations and from trawling through 4+ years of messages, I’ve come to the following conclusions about his methods –

He used his celebrity to gain our trust.

He set up a systematic process to groom us into keeping quiet.

He made promises he had no intention of keeping.

He constantly begged for nude pics.

He preyed on the vulnerable — I’m a single mom raising a disabled baby on my own — with no consideration for the emotional consequences.

The other women don’t want to go public. He has photos of them that they’d rather not end up online.

They want to move on with their lives and they hope that Karma will get him one day.

I’m different.

My Hakka genes dictate that I will not rest until this sociopath and sexual conman is exposed and stopped before he hurts other women.

I am his goddamn Karma.

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One of the photos that have never been shared in public because of keeping our relationship secret

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Latest update 1 April 2016 — a SEVENTH woman has come forward, who was so traumatised she couldn’t speak. She had just introduced him to her family after a year of dating; they were planning a future together at the same time he’d proposed/talked of marriage with two other women, and reignited his love affair with me.

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Robb Demarest Messages to Woman #7 and Woman #2

I’ve copped some backlash for coming forward about Robb Demarest, who accidentally forgot to tell his 8 (and counting) girlfriends about each other.

This next bit was sent to me by my friend John Craig, who has written a fair bit on human psychology. I reached out to him BEFORE I went public, and this is what he said —

I’d also warn you that if Demarest is a sociopath, and it sounds as if he probably is, he’ll stop at nothing to get revenge. You’ll restrict yourself to telling the truth about him, but he’ll make up lies about you, vicious lies which you may have no way of disproving, even if they’re not true. Just be forewarned on that score, and be prepared to hear some lies about yourself. At the very least he’ll deny what you’ve said and will call you a liar.

As predicted, I hear Demarest is now trying to discredit me by claiming that we didn’t date for 4 years. I don’t deny that he was gone for long periods — that’s what I said in both the New Idea interview and in an earlier post.

(If you’re a fan intent on making excuses for his behaviour, I’d really appreciate it if you could send him the articles. Thanks Allen/Lisa-Marie!)

In the meantime, this is woman #7 who had been with him a year and was still actively dating him yesterday (April 1, 2016) when she got in touch with me —

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And this was what he told me a few weeks ago in February this year after being gone for months —

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Demarest looking highly uncomfortable in this pic taken by Shangri-La Sabah in May 2014. I thought I wasn’t hot enough to be in his presence but it turns out he didn’t want his other girlfriends to suspect anything.

This is just a drop in the ocean as far as evidence I have on him; I’m putting more together, but in the meantime I want to clarify (yet again) why I’m doing this.

Mainly for Lisa-Marie’s benefit since she asked me that question 6 different ways during our FB back-and-forths (unfortunately she’s since blocked me, which is highly inconsiderate since I was hoping to copy/paste her questions and my answers for this blog post).

Also, Lisa-Marie, if you’re reading this – it’s you’re, not your. (Sorry. It’s been eating at me all week.)

First of all, I’m NOT doing it for these reasons —

  1. I’m a scorned woman. I’ve had bad breakups before and not gone public. If they don’t serve to edify my audience there’s no point in sharing about them.
  2. I want the publicity. This is distracting from my core brand — I really just want to be known as a great Malaysian cook and Down Syndrome advocate, I promise. When was the last time you saw me Livestream my cooking? That’s because I’ve been caught up in this.
  3. I’m cashing in on his celebrity. I’ve got 1.9 million followers; he’s got 20 thousand. (Thank you and good night.)

Why am I doing this?

  1. For the victims. The others are scared to speak out; Demarest is scary and confrontational, and he’s got pics they don’t want to get out. Some have kids and family and careers they want to protect. They all believe he needs to be exposed and they support me behind the scenes in different ways.
  2. For men. Some young guy responded to “My TV Star Boyfriend is a Sexual Conman” — “Your boyfriend is awesome, I wanna be like him!!!” I told him to send his mom, girlfriend and sisters’ details so I can forward them his comment. I’m still waiting. Men need to take a stand against this behaviour and I appreciate the ones who have expressed their disgust and tried to convince me there are some good men out there who are nothing like Demarest. Thank you and please continue speaking up.
  3. For other women. Some have gone through similar experiences. Others feel strongly about women’s rights. Please keep sending through these messages; they mean more than you probably realise –

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Keep your eyes peeled for my next update on this developing story!

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Did Robb Demarest Send You These Romantic Messages?

One of my early blog posts at Medium from when the story first broke, re-shared here for those who missed it.

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(Update  – EIGHT women have now come forward, seven of whom are single moms dating Robb Demarest concurrently and thinking we were all in exclusive relationships with him.)

Dear Lisa-Marie, you commented on New Idea Magazine’s love rat story about Robb Demarest.

You said you don’t believe it. That he’s a good friend.

I checked out your profile. I may be wrong, but it tells me you’re exactly the type of woman he would target.

You’re in the UK; he was in Saudi Arabia and now in the USA. How did he become your “good friend”?

Did he contact you online? Because that’s how he and I met too. You’re pretty and you’re into the paranormal. Same here.

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Does he talk a lot about his stalkers? He’s building up to when he asks you to keep quiet about your relationship — for your protection, of course.

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Did you ask him about me?

Did he say I’m just a friend who was in love with him and it wasn’t reciprocated? That’s what he told me about Brandy from GHI.

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When we officially started “dating”.

Or that we had a fling and I read it wrong? Or that we broke up years ago and I’ve never gotten over it?

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Otaku = Japanese term for people with an obsessive interest. He’s saying he’s obsessed with me.
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Message from Feb 2, 2016

Did he tell you about his sordid past, when he couldn’t take relationships seriously? That you’re his redemption and he wouldn’t do that to you? That even when he had casual flings, he never played anyone?

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Does he complain about his colleagues cheating on their partners? You would assume by contrast that he must be better than that.

Does he share about his tough upbringing? Stuff he’s never shared with other people? Photos from his pre-television past? Maybe that photo of that diner where he worked at 13 years of age?

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Nyok is my Chinese name; he’s pining for me because of our long distance relationship, supposedly.

Does he tell you about his nightmares?

Does he talk about weddings, and where you’re going to live, and how beautiful your kids would look?

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Does he remember the tiniest details about you from years back?

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This was sent from him Feb 2016 talking about one of our trips from 3 years back, in 2013

Do you share “in” jokes, culturally-specific ones to match your UK background, maybe? Does he put on a bad British accent for a laugh, pretend he’s British etc. around you?

He did that with me and my Malaysian/Chinese/Hakka heritage.

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Does he call you Baby? Did he give you a pet name, that no-one else knows you by? Mine is Nyok Tang— my Chinese name that is no longer used.

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Conversation from Feb 2016

It makes you feel special, doesn’t it?

I’m sorry, Lisa-Marie. For over 4 years, I thought I was special too.