Why Are You Doing this to Robb Demarest?

This is Woman #7  In Her Own Words

It was 31 March, 2016 Sydney time, two days after my first post on the Demarest scandal, and three days after the story broke in New Idea magazine.  

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Story in New Idea Magazine on Monday 28 March 2016. I particularly like the silhouette of the rat on the left.

Halfway around the world in Portland, Oregon, a woman woke up to messages from her friends about a story they’d read online concerning her boyfriend.

In fact, I would find out later that he had previously warned her about this “crazy Australian chick who was going to spread rumours about him because she was upset he wouldn’t go to Vietnam with her”.

This coincided with his discovery on March 9 that I had found out about his cheating. He had tried to contact me back then but I’d ignored all his calls and messages.

Demarest knew me well enough to know I was going to take action. And I knew Demarest well enough to know he would stalk me online to get a sense of what I would do, so despite having blocked each other on social media, I made a point of continuing with my usual, innocuous, shares while I put together my plan of action.

It had been an intense 48 hours – I was sharing the New Idea story everywhere and churning out blog posts while fielding media calls, responding to attacks from Demarest’s defenders and talking to the women who started coming forward.

These women in turn were supplying me with names of other potential victims that they thought I needed to track down. Profiles they had largely (though not all) collated from their observations of past, flirty interactions with Demarest on his social media pages.

Some of the leads turned out to be hostile, and I had some unpleasant exchanges that made me leery of reaching out to others. Woman #7 was on the list and the fact there was a very recent photo of them together made me think she was probably going to be staunchly in Camp Demarest.

I wasn’t looking forward to making contact.

As it turned out, I didn’t have to.

Late at night on 31 March Sydney time, I received a number of messages from The Daily Mail. I called them back and gave them a 45-minute interview, then headed to bed. During the night, the reporter managed to track down Woman #7 to ask her about her relationship with Demarest.

I woke up to this message the next morning –

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Woman #7I’m sorry to bother you but why are you doing this to Robb Demerest I just need to know. Thank you
Apr 1 · Sent from Messenger

Woman #7 – Will you please call me? I need closure please. xxx xxxxxx
I need to know the truth. Thank you.. You can call me on messenger as well.
Apr 1 · Sent from Messenger

Jackie M Tang
Hey xxxx, are you on skype? my id is xxxxx
Apr 1

Woman #7 – No I do not.. I just need closure.. I am not ok. I am supposed to be practicing routines for work tomorrow but I’m so upset I haven’t been able to move
Is this all true?
Apr 1

My heart broke. Up to this point, all the women I had spoken to were no longer in a relationship with Demarest. For what it was worth, they’d had time to recover somewhat from their break-ups by the time they found out about his cheating.

Woman #7 was different.

During the course of our conversation Robb was messaging and calling her.  I was trying to convince her not to take his call until she heard all the evidence.

Apart from these texts she also left me some voice messages because she was too upset to write. Listening to her timid, anguished voice was gut wrenching.

(ps. these are direct copy-pastes from our conversation, with bits pulled out for brevity and confidentiality)

Jackie M Tang – Are you still “with him”?
Woman #7 – Yes
He just left a week ago he met my family
Can I ask you a favor woman to woman will you please keep this confidence please I don’t want to break down
….

Woman #7  – He said he loved to me
Jackie M Tang – He said that to all of us.
Woman #7  – Because we are still together and I still love him

Jackie M Tang – You need to stop.
Woman #7 – Actually not after this
I believe you
I am completely in shock and I feel NOM inside
I’m sorry to bother you
Jackie M Tang – I’m glad you made contact.
When was the last time you spoke?
Woman #7  – An hour ago
Jackie M Tang – Did you talk about this?

Woman #7  – I told him about all these messages he said they were all lies and To ignore them

Jackie M Tang – Well I’m very sorry xxxxx but they’re true. You are #7
When did you start dating him? ……

Woman #7 – I started dating him March 7, 2015
Jackie M Tang – How many times did you meet up?
Woman #7 – He came to see me for the first time in December. Then he came and saw me a week ago he was doing event for us at the xxxxxxx and he stayed with me and extra week to meet my family
Jackie M Tang – Are you single? Any kids?
Woman #7 – Thank you for keeping me anonymous I don’t want anybody to know I don’t want him to know or my family
I am single and I do have kids they are adults

Jackie M Tang – Are you going to keep talking to him?
Woman #7  – I understand that I hope he doesn’t hurt anyone else
Jackie M Tang – Did he talk of a future? I’m guessing he’s got lots of compromising photos like with all the other women.
Woman #7 – After messaging you no I will block him after my talk with you. Yes we talk to our future of moving in together
Jackie M Tang – Were you planning on moving to Florida?
Woman #7 –  We didn’t really talk about a place
He has thousands of pictures of me when I say thousands I am not lying
I feel completely stupid
I just don’t want my family and friends to know I’ve been through a lot in the last two years I don’t want to put my family and friends through it

Woman #7 – We were supposedly in a relationship since March 7 now I know it’s all a lie he just messaged me but I’m not gonna respond like I said I’m gonna block him after our conversation there’s nothing I have left to say to him
I’m just going to tell my friends and family it didn’t work out
Jackie M Tang – What was his last message?

Woman #7 –  A sticker with hearts
Woman #7 – He’s trying to call me now but I’m not answering
Thank you I trust you 100%
Thank you for being strong enough for all of us
Jackie M Tang – Thank you for believing me
Woman #7 – I do. Please keep me posted and I will do the same again I’m going to go block him right now
Bye Jackie
Jackie M Tang – You bet. Bye xxxxxxx

I’ve cut out portions where I gave her specific examples of Demarest’s multiple relationships.

My public silence between when he realised on March 9 that I had made contact with 2 of his past girlfriends, and March 28 when the story was published, had paid off.

Not knowing what I was going to reveal, he had told her to ignore anything by a crazy Aussie woman who wanted more from their friendship and was now spreading lies about being in a relationship with him.

He then changed it to say that he and I broke up a long time ago, back in 2012. Oh, and any allegations of cheating are ancient history and he was now a changed man (sound familiar?). He had never and would never cheat on her.

When the story and my blog posts were published, she confronted him about the very recent dates in my blog post transcripts. He started to slip up, saying (following based on voice messages supplied by Woman #7) –

1) we were joking around when he said that I was his Baby and he owned me etc. In fact, it was a running joke between the two of us, apparently.

2) he couldn’t even remember where he was in February 2016, that he might have been in Saudi (no, he moved back to Florida in 2015)

3) this voice message is revealing in his specificity about not cheating on her with me (as opposed to cheating on her, period) –

Keep in mind she dated him from March 2015-March 2016;

  1. This was his message to Woman #6 in November 2015 (responding directly to HER suspicions he was cheating) –

(The following are gleaned from interviews with the relevant women; transcripts available on request)

2. He broke up with Woman #3 in November 2015, then tried to get back with her a few weeks later.

3. He wanted Woman #4 to book them a hotel room for a tryst in June 2015 and got upset when she refused.

4. He proposed marriage to Woman #1 in February 2016 after he and I were done for good.

5. He tried to get back with Woman #5 in February 2016 after his marriage proposal to Woman #1 was knocked back.

6. And these are snippets of our Vietnam plans made in February 2016 (blocks of his dialogue blacked out because of their sexual nature) –

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Notice this next bit where I asked if he’s seeing anyone else since he had disappeared for months before making contact again in January 2016 –

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Demarest soundbite the next day after talking about Vietnam – 

I guess in Robb Demarest’s moral universe, this kind of behaviour isn’t “cheating”.

Woman #7 subsequently sent me this message from Demarest. No “I’m sorry, I love you, etc. – just this”,  as she put it. –

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Woman #7 has had a rocky time getting back on her feet emotionally. Out of respect and to allow her time to heal, I’ve left some details out from her account of their relationship. As bad as it seems, some of the worst of Demarest’s behaviour remain undisclosed to this day to protect the women.

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