Month: August 2018

Is Robb Demarest’s apology sincere? What do you think?

This is just a small sample of some of the comments that filtered through in response to my last two posts –

“A leopard never changes its spots”

“He has apologised because he has been backed into a corner and knows he’s being watched”

“His letter is stupid”

And here’s an email I received –

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Dear Jackie,

I’m not sure if you will ever read this email, but since I’ve been following your posts about Robb for a couple of years, I felt compelled to write.

First, a little background about me. I used to be a huge GHI fan and admit to having a bit of a celeb crush on Robb. That’s the reason why I Google’d his name one day and came upon your site. I was simply astounded reading your story and those of the other women. But I immediately believed everything you wrote for a simple reason: there was always something about him that seemed “off.”

I used to leave posts on his Facebook account and was pretty surprised that he responded to a number of them. Most celebrities don’t give you the time of day, and that’s what I’ve come to accept. His responses took my fandom to the next level. Looking back, that’s a nice way of manipulating a person – these guys know that if you give a fan a tiny bit of attention, they will just feel even crazier about you. Around that time, I opened a Google+ account.

Not really understanding how the whole thing worked, I left it alone until Robb actually asked me to join his “circle.” Despite my crush, I was happily married (at the time), and getting the invite from him just gave me a creepy feeling. I accepted his invite, but I stopped posting and interacting with him. When I read your blog, I was really glad I did. I began to see that that’s how he managed to engage with so many female fans, eventually developing romantic yet twisted relationships with them. He seems to like Asian or other ethnic women the most (I’m also Asian). By the way, you are absolutely stunning, and I can see why he fell for you.

From reading your blog, I could see that Robb is a narcissist, as well as a sociopath. He had to be as most normal people couldn’t juggle that many relationships in that many countries, promising marriage and babies and a happily ever after to a multitude of women. I can barely keep track of my own relatives and friends. How he managed to juggle so many women is beyond me. Only an evil, fucked up individual could do something like that so successfully, and for so long.

I never thought he would ever admit to being wrong and actually apologizing. I’m sure you didn’t either. As astounded as I was first finding out the truth about him, I was just as astounded reading his apology to you. If you decide to accept his apology, that is your right, and I will stand by whatever decision you make. Even though I don’t know you, however, as a woman who has supported you from afar, I just have to say that I don’t have a good feeling about the situation. I don’t completely buy his apology. He’s like the criminal who’s not sorry for committing the crime…he’s just very very sorry he got caught.

Your web site very much was a public service announcement, not only for female fans of Robb but for women everywhere who are in a vulnerable state. I have since separated from my husband and was thinking about dating again, but I decided not to take the plunge right away, knowing that I tend to be very naive and gullible when it comes to men. I could have easily fallen for someone like Robb. I tend to trust too easily if anyone shows me a modicum of kindness and attention. Reading your blog made me a bit more wise to reality in general – that few things are as they seem, and that most people have skeletons in their closets. Your blog has helped me navigate the world a bit more cautiously.

I think ultimately your web site helped him face the music, so to speak. He probably lost potential gigs because of it. He probably has had less success manipulating women because of it. He has had to face the disappointment of his children because of it. He had no choice but to recognize that he was found out and that he could no longer get away with his bullshit. Therefore, he had little choice but to make a public apology, hoping to garner the sympathy of those around him.

In my mind, he apologized because he had no choice. And reading the responses by women on his apology posts were disgusting…they were quick to say what a great guy he is for owning his mistakes (without probably even knowing the background), and they were even quicker to think even MORE highly of him for doing so. Genius move, don’t you think?

HIs apology seemed so weak. So vague. I think if he was truly sorry and honest about wanting to become a better man (think of all the abusive assholes before him who have said the same thing after being caught – think Chris Brown and Harvey Weinstein), I’d have to hear him say in detail EXACTLY what he did to you and all those other women.

I want him to tell his fans that dated multiple women at the same time, promising them marriage and babies and the world. I want him to tell his fans how he lied to each of those women, and how he did abusive things to them in bed against their will. I wonder then if his fans will continue telling him what a great guy he is.

His 15 minutes of fame have long been over. You originally said that you wouldn’t stop going after Robb until he leaves his “celebrity” life behind. I think you should stand by that. As long as there are women who are enamored by his past celebrity, someone like him will NEVER change.

You can’t suddenly not be a narcissist. You can’t suddenly not be a sociopath. How does one make such a drastic 180 change as he is claiming to make? I just don’t buy that he is a “changed man.” I think he is a cornered man, and his only way out of the corner is to appear humble, make a feeble apology, and then gain the forgiveness and love of people who don’t know the full story. PLEASE don’t take down your web site. Let it be a permanent warning for women. It helped me. Think of all the other thousands you probably helped.
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Please continue to be cautious, Jackie. I wish you and your adorable son well.

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As with everything else connected to this website, there were a lot of backroom discussions that took place before, during and after the “apology”; enough for me to fill a book.

Woman #13, whose story I’ve yet to tell, stepped in to mediate between the two of us. Through her efforts, Robb and I finally talked after 27 months of open warfare. We talked for countless hours almost every day for 3 weeks.

We are no longer talking.

Stay tuned to find out what happened, as I will be sharing transcripts of my chats with a number of key players over that period. Then you can draw your own conclusions about the Robb Demarest apology.

(ps. for those who don’t know, Fact or Faked was a TV show, the star of which Robb attacked publicly on Facebook when he and I broke up in 2016. That’s another story for another day.)

BTW, I’m not sure if the email writer above saw this specific comment on Robb’s initial apology on Facebook, but it is typical of the kind of support he was receiving from his fans. This infuriated many behind the scenes, whose comments calling him out were being deleted.