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The Women In Their Own Words – 1
I’ve written in previous posts about some of the Demarest women and how I found them. This 2-part series lets them tell their stories in their own words.
It’s not always practical to screenshot the conversations (large chunks of of them reveal too much about their identities), so I’ve mixed them up with quotes from the transcripts.
I’ve picked up the following patterns from these initial conversations –
- promises of a future by Demarest
- fear of compromising pics leaking out
- Demarest’s tendency to go quiet for periods of time
- the batch dumping of girlfriends and batch attempts at reigniting relationships
- their bewilderment at being dumped for trivial reasons after long courtships
If you’re just catching up, here’s my post outlining these women’s relationships (the date patterns are more obvious there) => The Robb Demarest Relationships Timeline
I’m sticking to the same numerical sequence in referencing the women.
To reiterate, this was how things unfolded –
24 Feb 2016 – Demarest breaks up with me over a minor fight. We had first started dating in 2012 and he would go silent for long periods over the next 4 years, but always came back.
8 March – A former colleague of Demarest contacts me online and tells me about what he knew while filming Haunting Australia in 2013.
The conversation below picks up from my disclosure that I was the person who pitched Haunting:Australia for Demarest; a fact that he had kept secret from his co-stars the whole time. For as long as we were together I didn’t want to push the point about getting sidelined. I wasn’t even allowed to visit him on set and wasn’t invited to the HA wrap party.
I thought he needed the ego boost and adulation of his co-stars to be seen as the guy who successfully secured the show and got them a TV gig. He had, after all, been dumped from Ghost Hunters International previously and had had no luck getting any of his projects off the ground until I came along.
Now that we’d split up, I had no problem telling it like it is. Anyone who researches the production company that made HA would know their genre is food, which is how I had a pre-existing relationship with them.
This was the first mention of another girlfriend – Woman #3.
According to this person, Woman #3 got in touch with a number of people during Haunting:Australia because he had gone silent.
He continued –
He’s just dumped her about a month ago! But was seeing her when we was in OZ so she said. I told her he was ment (sp) to be with you! At the time! She was shocked as he was ment (sp) to be with her! All very messy…
Me – Did you tell her who I was?
Yes! I said I had met you and you was a stunning person! But at the time I don’t think she believed me.
Talk to her babe she’s a nice girl X
(NB. Woman #3 would later tell me they broke up 4 months ago as opposed to “a month ago” per this person’s account; it doesn’t matter in this sequence but I’m pedantic.)
And then this – first mention of Demarest with one of the women in the show’s production (Woman #5)
Because of my involvement with pitching Haunting:Australia, I had been FB friends with Woman #5 since 2013 with neither of us aware we were both dating him.
I confronted Woman #5 on FB. (Yes, I was pretty blunt – I was still in shock about the revelations.)
A long phone conversation followed, during which Woman #5 said Demarest also promised a future with her, wanted her to have his baby, etc.
She had heard from him after a long silence, on Feb 26 – ie. 2 days after he broke up with me. In that conversation he had wanted to reignite their relationship but she said no.
She recently found out that during his last trip with her in 2015, he had met another woman and had been private messaging and asking her for nude pics as well.
Unfortunately for him, this woman already had a boyfriend so she told some mutual friends who passed on the information to Woman #5.
Woman #5 about a sex tape –
This was as well as photos he had of her. Despite the reassurance, woman #5 ultimately decided against going public because of her children and career.
I then contacted Woman #3 on Instagram and this was part of the conversation –
Woman #3 – I was with Robb for like 2.5 years…He told me the exact same things about a future together etc. I fell for it. I feel so stupid now…
About pics & being dumped by Demarest –
(NB not that it would have deterred me, but the reality is Demarest doesn’t really have any photos of mine that are that revealing; you’d see more skin on any Australian beach.)
About not tagging him on social media and about going to Florida –
I’ve already written about the next woman, ie. Woman #4 => I Know Another Woman – whose friend contacted me within 24 hours of my social media shares. As she’s requested high confidentiality, I won’t even share any of her transcripts.
According to her, she was dumped in November 2015 after 2.5 years though he continued to chase for nude pics (which she refused) as recently as February 2016. She was one of the most badly affected emotionally from his behaviour.
It was only since the story broke that she started putting the missing pieces together and is now on her way to rebuilding her self-worth.
Woman #6 got in touch with me the same night I heard from Woman #4 –
About a future together, and pics –
Woman #6 never got to meet up with Demarest despite numerous attempts –
This was the same story told by Woman #3 and Woman #4 – he always found a way to prevent them meeting him in Florida – which made us suspect there was another woman there.
Like Woman #4, Woman #6 constantly questioned Demarest about whether there were other women – and he always denied it. This was one instance –
The breakup, when she found he was about to fly out to meet with a woman in Portland, December 2015 –
Despite being the one to break it off, Woman #6 could not understand why Demarest did not try harder to explain himself or to make contact (eg. by phone or email). Finding my story online was what gave her some resolution.
This was what she had to say about it (and about the flak I was getting from cyber crybabies saying I should shut up and move on with my life) –
They can’t relate to us. They don’t know the mental manipulation and the mind games he plays. I didn’t lose 55 pounds from diet and working out…. I was mentally tormented. Robb did a number on me mentally. I thought breaking things off was the worst mistake I ever made…. It wasn’t and now I have some relief.
I can’t emphasize enough the hit on the women’s self-worth to be so disposable after long-term relationships with Demarest. It didn’t make sense until after the story broke and they realised it was because he had several women on the go at the same time.
Next up – the rest of the women.
Protected: Psychology and the Demarest Scandal
I Know Another Woman…
I’ll never forget those words.
Let’s backtrack to two days before.
On 27 March 2016, I sent out this email to my mailing list. The story was due to break the next morning –
, on Easter Monday, New Idea Magazine will feature an interview with me – and it has NOTHING to do with food or cooking.
I’m sorry the rest of this email sounds vague – there’s a reason for this – which I’ll reveal in the coming days.
You see, I’ve been keeping a secret for nearly 4 ½ years but have decided to come forward because of some new information that was given to me earlier this month.
I wish I had this information when I did an internet search back when this started; it would have saved me from all that has ensued. That’s why I’m speaking out – I believe it is important that other potential victims are warned about it.
I’ve given a mountain of evidence to New Idea to back up my story, and it’s been vetted by their lawyers.
Depending on the kind of blowback I get once the story breaks, I will release the evidence online to defend myself.
I will speak a lot more about it after the first 48 hours of the story coming out – and will fill in the gaps for you.
I want you to know that but for the fact that it affects other people (and will continue to do so), I would never have spoken out. In fact, most people I’ve talked to think I should keep quiet because they think it’ll damage my reputation and disrupt my life, so please don’t think this is about publicity.
This is not the sort of spotlight I relish – I’d much rather be known for my food and my Down Syndrome advocacy.
If you’re in Australia, please pick up a copy of Easter Monday’s New Idea. Once you’ve read it, if you decide to stand with me, please share the story with everyone you know and every media outlet you have access to.
Thank you , from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate your support.
My email subscribers are meant to be my most loyal followers. I like to keep it fairly exclusive; rather than try to push hard for subscribers, I’ve been known to delete annoying people from it.
I hate showing vulnerability; that had been a tough email to write.
This was the first reply to hit my Inbox –
Peter – Please remove me from this conversation. I don’t indulge in gossip, I’m only interested in your food.
Me – Based on your response I’ve deleted you from my subscriber list.
Peter – That was a bit petulant.
Me – I would say the same about you.
Peter – You’ve just lost a fan.
Me – Trust me, it’s not a loss.
(As you can see, I’m real mature.)
I found out after that interaction, that Peter was that same creepy guy who had commented on too many of my social media posts for months. Contrary to his high email horse, they weren’t always food-related either. Weirdo.
After that inauspicious start to my campaign, I wasn’t sure what to expect. At the time the New Idea story broke, there were only 3 known women, including myself.
I ploughed on with this post on my website (since updated), and shared it on social media.-
Again, more negativity.
In response, I wrote my first post at Medium.com/@JackieM – “Did he say this to you? Then you’re not special.”
That same night, I received this message from a stranger – a man from halfway across the world –
I know another woman. A mother. I am sharing this with her. (…)
I think she needs to know this.
Thank you for sharing. This could not have been easy and I am very sorry for all that have been impacted.
My friend will be upset. (…)
I am so sorry. Men should honour women. Especially mums….
Mar 29 · Sent from Mobile
I just about fell off my chair. My decision to come forward had been vindicated.
Our conversation continued like this (with parts redacted for brevity and confidentiality)-
Man – So she is number 4 out of what appears to be many. Wow…
Jackie M. – Yes.
Man – She will kill him
Jackie M. – I would kill him myself.
Man – She cannot go public. That’s her fear.
Jackie M. – I understand. Same with the other two women.(…)
Man – Wow.
Jackie M. – He’ll soon learn he f*cked the wrong woman.
Man – Amen. Good luck to you all
Woman #4 got in touch with me after my initial exchanges with her friend. We continue to communicate to this day.
Today Tonight TV Interview About Robb Demarest Scandal
This is the story about Ghost Hunters International’s Robb Demarest that aired on Australia’s Today Tonight on 5 April 2016. The interview was conducted a week before that.
At the time of the interview I was aware of only 3 women but by the time it came on TV, more had come forward.
There are a few minor facts that need correction/clarification (I don’t think these misstatements took away from the story, which I think was very well done) —
- we were messaging on pretty much everything EXCEPT Twitter, whereas the segment says we were messaging on Twitter.
- it says Robb was dumped from GH, when in fact it was GHI.
- it says he begged for a second chance after I found out about his cheating — I think there were some crossed wires there — they asked if he’d tried to get in touch and I said yes (he sent several messages and called 2x) but that I didn’t answer him. I would imagine they were his attempts at damage control; I definitely didn’t think he was trying to get back with me.
The New Idea interview was published on 28 March. Once I started sharing about it more women came forward, taking the number to eight, seven of whom are single moms.
I guess the moral of the story, to would-be cheaters, is to not piss off Hakka-Chinese single moms with disabled babies and 1.9 million followers.
The Robb Demarest Relationships Timeline
Update 4 April — …and then there were 8…I’ve added more to the timeline based on my conversation with an 8th woman.
— — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — —
Timeline drawn from interviews (transcripts available on request) with the seven known victims of Ghost Hunters International’s Robb Demarest. This is to rebut his claim that he did not date more than one woman at a time.
I think there are probably others out there, and more being groomed as I write.
As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, these are NOT casual flings; these women were all led to believe they were in exclusive relationships with this man. He talked of marriage and babies; some of these women were asked to relocate to Florida with him. At the same time.
I am Woman #2 in this list.
2008–2014 — on-off relationship with Woman #1. According to her, they would rekindle their romance every time he travelled to her home state which he did regularly (no dates available, but spread out over timeline below).
shortly after June 2010 — began talking to Woman #8
Dec 2011 — began talking to, then dating Woman #2. Discussed plans to meet up in Iceland.
April 2012 — Milestone — said he was completely in love with Woman #2 . Proposed marriage and offered to adopt her unborn, sick, disabled baby.
early May 2012 — Booked tickets to meet up with Woman #8 in Europe
mid May 2012 — Woman #2 ended relationship because he kept disappearing and was uncontactable for days leading up to her emergency caesarean.
mid May 2012 — he travelled to Woman #1’s home state.
late May 2012 — he came back to Woman #2, apologized, gradually picked up where they left off. Woman #2’s baby in ICU for 7 months until Dec 2012.
June 2012 — met with Woman #8 in Europe, began relationship. Milestone — proposed marriage shortly after that.
Jan-Feb 2013 — with Woman #2 in Malaysia. He talked about eloping on their last day there.
March 2013 — with Woman #3 in Iceland.
April 2013 — started talking with Woman #4. Invited her to Nepal. She declined.
May 2013 — with Woman #3 in Nepal.
June 2013 — with Woman #2 in Sydney on short trip. Met her baby for first time.
June 2013 — began relationship with Woman #4 in US.
June 2013 (approx) — rekindled relationship with Woman #1 in US. She describes it as when their relationship was at its strongest.
July 2013 — relationship with Woman #8 ended by her. Warned by her to stay away.
July 2013 — with Woman #2 in Sydney on arrival to film Haunting:Australia.
July-Aug 2013 — while on the road to film HA,
- began relationship with Woman #5 and spent every night with her.
- told Woman #3 he wanted exclusivity with her.
- called Woman #4 to say he missed her.
Sept 2013 — with Woman #2 on return to Sydney after filming wrapped, for one day. Went back to Woman #5 that night. She confronted him about Woman #2; he insisted they were just friends and that “nothing happened”.
Feb 2014 — with Woman #4 in US. Throughout their relationship she regularly questioned him about other women; he always insisted there was no-one else.
April 2014 — started talking to Woman #6. Talked of plans for wedding in a castle in NY during their 20-month relationship, and told her to house-hunt in Florida for their future residence. She made plans to move to Florida to be with him. Regularly denied he was seeing anyone else (inc. one screenshot on record.)
May 2014 — with Woman #2 in Malaysia. Questioned hard on his return by Woman #4 about whether there was a relationship with Woman #2 during that trip. He swore up and down there was nothing going on.
June 2014 — with Woman #3 in Bahrain. He wanted to get engaged.
Sept 2014 — with Woman #4 in Europe. Milestone — told her he loved her.
Oct 2014 — Woman #6 went to Florida to meet him but he didn’t show up; wasn’t contactable.
Jan 2015 — with Woman #5, travelled around Australia on a paranormal tour. Was introduced to her family. Told her he was in love with her, wanted her to have a baby with him.
Entire 2015 — wanted Woman #3 to come to Florida and start a family once he moved back there from Saudi Arabia (which he did in July). She made plans to do so but he kept coming up with excuses why she couldn’t come.
Throughout 2015 — made numerous attempts to re-establish relationship with Woman #8. She ignored his messages.
Mar 2015 — began relationship with Woman #7.
June 2015 — asked Woman #4 to book a hotel room for them. She refused as their communication had been strained and inconsistent.
Sept 2015 — Milestone — told Woman #7 he was in love with her.
Oct 2015 — Woman #6 went to Florida again to meet him; again he cancelled at the last minute.
Nov 2015 — Ended relationship with Woman #4. Deleted and blocked her on social media. Later resumed communication and continued with sexual talk and asking for pics until Feb 2016.
Nov 2015 — Relationship with Woman #3 ended after a “stupid argument”. Deleted her on FB.
Nov 2015 — Tried to resume relationship with Woman #5. She was in a new relationship and said no. He got angry.
Nov 2015 — Milestone — told Woman #6 he loved her.
Dec 2015 — Relationship with Woman #6 ended after she found out he was about to secretly meet a woman — Woman #7 — in Portland.
Dec 2015 — with Woman #7 in Portland.
Jan 2016 (approx) — tried to resume relationship with Woman #3. She said no.
Jan-Feb 2016 — resumed relationship with Woman #2. Said he had always adored her, honestly missed her and loved her. On record to say he wasn’t seeing anyone else. Planned romantic catch-up in Vietnam and Cambodia.
Feb 2016 — Proposed marriage to Woman #1 and wanted to start a family immediately although she was now in a serious relationship. She said no.
24 Feb 2016 — Ended relationship with Woman #2 over a minor argument. Deleted and blocked her.
24 Feb 2016 — Gloated to Woman #1’s boyfriend he had nude pics of her. She deleted him.
26 Feb 2016 — Tried to resume relationship with Woman #5. She said no.
8 March 2016 — Unsolicited message online from mutual connection alerting Woman #2 to his infidelities.
March 2016 — Spent a week with Woman #7; was introduced to her family. Planned for future together.
Easter 2016 — New Idea Magazine exclusive, non-paid interview with Woman #2 re: story. At the time there were only 3 known women — #2, #3 and #5.
The rest came forward after the story was shared online.
Protected: My TV Star Boyfriend is a Sexual Conman
Robb Demarest Messages to Woman #7 and Woman #2
I’ve copped some backlash for coming forward about Robb Demarest, who accidentally forgot to tell his 8 (and counting) girlfriends about each other.
This next bit was sent to me by my friend John Craig, who has written a fair bit on human psychology. I reached out to him BEFORE I went public, and this is what he said —
I’d also warn you that if Demarest is a sociopath, and it sounds as if he probably is, he’ll stop at nothing to get revenge. You’ll restrict yourself to telling the truth about him, but he’ll make up lies about you, vicious lies which you may have no way of disproving, even if they’re not true. Just be forewarned on that score, and be prepared to hear some lies about yourself. At the very least he’ll deny what you’ve said and will call you a liar.
As predicted, I hear Demarest is now trying to discredit me by claiming that we didn’t date for 4 years. I don’t deny that he was gone for long periods — that’s what I said in both the New Idea interview and in an earlier post.
(If you’re a fan intent on making excuses for his behaviour, I’d really appreciate it if you could send him the articles. Thanks Allen/Lisa-Marie!)
In the meantime, this is woman #7 who had been with him a year and was still actively dating him yesterday (April 1, 2016) when she got in touch with me —
And this was what he told me a few weeks ago in February this year after being gone for months —
Protected: Did Robb Demarest Send You These Romantic Messages?
New Idea Magazine Interview on Robb Demarest Scandal
My initial blog post at JackieM.com.au from when the story first broke on 28 March 2016, re-shared here for those who missed it.
Today’s New Idea Magazine has what I think is an important albeit non-food story about me. It is about my relationship with reality TV star Robb Demarest from Ghost Hunters International and Haunting:Australia.
This is NOT a bad breakup story. My marriage to Noah’s dad was a bad breakup and you’ve never heard me divulge the details nor name him in public. This affects other potential victims, which is why I’m coming forward.
I know I share a lot about my personal story but this is sufficiently off on a tangent that I’d much prefer to move the discussion to a different platform.
Please follow me at RobbDemarestCheats.com – I’ve started posting about this topic there. Depending on the response from all concerned I’ll also post any evidence needed to back up my story.
Thank you all.
(In some people’s minds I should only be sharing recipes and cooking videos, but the reality is I’m a real person with my own story, struggles and flaws so if you have a problem with it, you’re probably best served by following other recipe-sharing sites instead of mine.)
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